I would love some advice! If you have experienced this, no someone who has I would love some advice.
What do you do with a child that HATES clothes, shoes, panties, socks. EVERYDAY Savanah looses her mind, and I do mean loose her mind over some article of clothing. I have tried everything, but to no prevail. She hates bluejeans & goes nuts if she puts them on. So, I stopped buying bluejeans and put hers away. So, I started buying leggings way to big because she likes them better. She doesn't like shirts that fit - so I buy shirts to big. She hates socks - so I don't make her wear socks anymore, but don't get by her at the end of the day because her feet stink. She hates panties - so I buy them toooo big. She hates shoes - so thereagain I buy them to big. She hates most dresses but she has to wear one to church. SO, EVERYDAY starts with alot of screaming, crying, pulling on our clothes, wallering on the floor (you get the picture). Not fun! And somedays puts me in a really bad mood. Sundays are the worse! We have spanked her, grounded her, made her stay in the guest room for a long time with nothing to do. Such fun! I really don't know what her problem is. Once she gets over it - she never says another word about the clothes the rest of the day. Several weeks ago she put on some clothes and started in with her fit because the pants hurt (it was on a Friday). Once I got her to school she was okay. Then on Saturday morning she woke up and put on the same clothes. I told her she needed to take them off & put them in the dirty cloths because she had already worn them. Her response was she liked them & wanted to wear them again. ARE YOU KIDDING ME! So, she wore them all day Saturday too. Then Sunday after church, what did she put on? The same clothes. This time I made her take them off. REALLY - clothes that hurt when we put them on & cause us to loose our mind we can wear 3 days in a row. So Bryan decided that it is just habit now and not really a problem since we have tried really hard to avoid this problem with buying too big things. What are your thoughts?
Wish I had a picture to show you of the fits we throw in the morning. They sure do start the day out great!
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When I was working with a kiddo who had to take a certain medicine every hour she started to fight it big time. So we set up system where she got rewarded each time. Each time she did it peacefully, she got a bead. After 10 beads she got to pick a movie for family movie night, after 20 she got a night out with Mom, and so on... The little girl picked the rewards for the beads so she totally bought into it.
Just a thought if you know its not actually a sensory thing with wearing clothes.
The only thought I had was that it may be some kind of sensory overload. The clothes touching her body may just be too much. I have no idea though. A reward system may be your key. Good luck!
My first thought is teh sensory overload too. Occupational therapy will help wonders with that. Another thing is that maybe this is her way of controlling things. If it isn't a sensory issue, it is a control one for sure. Once she learns that you don't care, maybe she'll stop. But that means you really can't care at all what she wears until she learns it is no longer a trigger for you. Going naked somewhere or having someone outside the family mention something about it may make her realize it and she may stop fighting. Not fun.
I just flash forwarded 2 years and totally see Autumn behaving like this. My first thought was some sensory issue like others mentioned. Autumn throws a fit if her hiar isn't done or her clothes don't match to her taste. It's bizarre. I know Autumn is comfortable walking around naked and doesn't think anything is wrong with it so I could see Savana feeling like she won and announcing how nice it is to not have clothes on. SO I think ignoring it and letting her think you dont care is questionable. If you let her not wear clothes on Sat. and then Sun she had to wear a dress to church she may argue that yesterday you let her not wear clothes. Sorry to be 10 days late on this! Hopefully it's resolved by now!
I don't know if it is sensory or not. I use to think so, but not so sure anymore. Definately a CONTROL thing! We have gone over a week without a fit because the last time she threw on B made her sit in the guest bedroom for 2 hours. NOTHING to do in the guest room. Noone to talk to or look at, nothing to play with, absolutely nothing to do. She HATES that room now. She doesn't want to go back so we haven't had anymore break downs. She thought about it one morning and then I reminded her about the room and she changed her mind. Guess she decided it isn't worth it. Yeah B!
Oh, tried the whole reward system and it only worked for other behavior not the whole clothes and shoe issue.
Heather! Sucks about the snow. I could seriously go for some global warming right now. In anticipation of it I am going shopping for summer clothes for the kiddos this weekend. Wish you were here!
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